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06 Jun 2011 Comments Off

Bad day at work

Bad days happen to the best of us. Days where you just wake up in a really bad mood. Where something (or nothing) has made you angry, sad, frustrated, disappointed, whatever. Days where you know up front that “MAN, this is going to suck”.

You still have to get up and go to work, but before you even get there, you’re already seething inside. You try to do your job but somehow all the angry, dissatisfied clients have conspired to call you and complain on the same day – though you have no idea how they coordinated that little feat.

Everything your co-workers say to you sounds incredibly stupid. Everyone seems out to annoy you. The next person to open his mouth is likely to get his head ripped clean off.

Not much fun, huh? Luckily, you can do something about it. Here are six ways to turn around a bad day.

1: Accept your bad mood

Being in a bad mood is not that hard. Being in a bad mood while trying to force yourself to cheer up really sucks.

Fighting a bad mood only prolongs it, so if you’re mad, be mad. If you’re sad, be sad. This does not give you license to be rude and unpleasant to innocent bystanders, it just means that you need to recognize and accept your bad mood to be able to do something about.

2: Tell others

I spoke to a friend of mine about how the IT support department at medical company Leo Pharma give employees permission to say when they’re having a bad day. With the result that people have fewer bad days and recover faster from the ones they do have.

You can try to keep you bad mood a secret and put on your happy mask. Guess what, you’re fooling nobody. Your co-workers will notice and they will wonder what they’ve done to piss you off.

The best thing to do, is to tell the peope you work closely with. Simply tell them “listen guys, I’m in a really sour mood to today. I’m not sure why, but it’s nothing you have done. If I bite your head off, I apologize in advance”.

3: Look inside first

In the extremely influential book Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman argues that EQ, your emotional quotient, is what makes you successful, not IQ. This means that the truly successful people are not the smart ones but the ones with the best emotional skills.

Goleman defines five emotional competencies that make up EQ, two of which are:

The ability to identify and name one’s emotional states and to understand the link between emotions, thought and action.
The capacity to manage one’s emotional states — to control emotions or to shift undesirable emotional states to more adequate ones.

In other words, EQ relies on your ability to recognize and deal with your own emotions.

When you’re in a bad mood, it’s extremly tempting to look around you for sources of that mood. “Man I’m annoyed today. Must be Paul talking loudly on the phone. Or Lisa being late with the specs once again. Or…”

We tend to think that a bad mood is always caused by something or someone else. And when we’re in a bad mood, everything suddenly becomes annoying, making it even easier to find justifications for the bad mood.

But not every bad mood has a reason. Maybe you just slept badly. Or you’re coming down with the flu. Or you’re just having a bad day. In these cases, trying to justify a bad mood is a sucker’s bet.

Instead, you must look inside yourself first, to see what might or might not be the cause of your negative emotional state.

4: Remember the good stuff

When you’re in a foul mood, everything is bad. But the good things you appreciated yesterday, where you weren’t as annoyed, are probably still there – you’re just not seeing them.

Spend a few moments to try think of at least one or two things that aren’t all bad. Something you look forward to. A person you like at work. Something nice that happened recently.

5: This too shall pass

You’ve been in a bad mood before. It passed. So will this one. It’s no big deal.

6: Take some quiet time

And if you’re having a really bad day, it may be a good idea to withdraw a little if you can. Take a walk in your lunch break. Sit and work somewhere quiet. Take a loooooong bathroom break. Consider going home early or taking the day off.

Or this may happen:

NB

The tips in this post work for the occasional bad day. If you find yourself having one bad day after another, you need to do something more. Your job may be bringing you down, and you may be in danger of contracting stress. You may even be having a depression. If you think this may be happening, do something and talk to someone.

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Thank you in abundance and try and make it a great day! xx

“It All Starts With One Simple Thought”

“It All Starts With One Simple Thought” – By Erial L Wheeler

The every first thing to do is: We need to realise the power we have in us RIGHT NOW, and I mean ALL OF US – yes even you have this power too!

But you want to REALLY understand it, you want to use it, you want to control it and you want direct it, so that you can GO on to ATTAIN your REAL GOALS and REAL DESIRES in life… Right?

We cannot express powers which we do not about.

The only way by which we can take POSSESSION of our mind power is to become CONSCIOUSLY AWARE of it.

And we cannot become CONSCIOUSLY AWARE of power – until we leanr that all power comes from within. Yes – within you.

Your mind, my mind is governed by what we think, what we feel and what we experience. When we discover this we shall find the solution to every problem and rooted habit.

AND SINCE THE MIND IS UNDER OUR CONTROL… ALL LAWS OF POWER AND POSSESSION ARE ALSO WITHIN OUR CONTROL.

I bet no one told you that? Now, you are peaked with curiosity and with the desire to find this out…

Let’s continue further with our ideas…

Each and everyone of is responsible for building our own world. We build from within and we attract from without – and it’s our power of thought that we create and must use to form building. Dr. Wayne Dyer writes that “all of our behaviour results from the thoughts which preceded it. So the thing to work on is not your behaviour but the thing that caused your behaviour, your thoughts.”

What Dr. Wayne Dyer speaks of is the foundation of health and a necessary essential to all greatness, all power, all achievements, all attainment, and all success.

Our future is entirely within our control. It is not at the mercy of any strange, beyond or out there and uncertain external power.

Every Thought We Have is A “CAUSE”

And Every Condition is an “EFFECT”

For this very reason, it is absolutely essential that we control our thought and monitor them so we can bring forth only desirable condition for ourselves.

Our thoughts are forces onto themselves, everything must first be worked out in the unseen process before it’s manifested into the seen, in the ideal before it’s realised in the real and in the immaterial world before it’s created in the material like driving you car or walking across the road. So we learn that our mind is creative, and as thought is the only an activity which the mind processes – thought must also be creative. You use you all your six senses and you see what is based on what you perspective to be and touchable by you and your filters.

Certainly nothing can be created, before we know that it can be created and then make the proper effort, in order to create it. You think of the ideas and it manifests inside to the point your mind makes it a reality where you touch it and see it. This is how our mind is programmed. Your mind is not only the creator, but the only creator of all this is, besides the universe which is God.

In learning that both the mind and thoughts are creative, we come the face that,

“It All Starts With One Simple Thought”

And that strong, clear and uninterrupted thought is a means of tapping your creative mind energy and also attracting from it, that which match to the ambitions, desires, and goals of any person who will put forth the simple effort in order to attain it.

KJV Luke 11:9-10 “And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.”